Tuesday, March 14, 2017
Step away from some off them … and we can find ourselves undertaking an unintended journey.
I remember clearly, some 30 years ago now, making the decision to step away from my usual routine of training in the percussion-based styles of martial art (striking) and making a brief foray into the world of grappling. I’ll just make a quick trip to Brazil, I thought, I little temporary detour from my habits, and dip my toe in the BJJ pool … so to speak.
Thirty years later, I am still splashing around. Sometimes, the unintended journey sets us on a path that leads to a lifetime of adventure and joy. You never know what lies around the corner. - JBW
Monday, March 13, 2017
Why is it that two people can be presented with much the same opportunities - one extracts maximum value from those opportunities and makes things happen - the other does not - why?
I think there are a few big contributing factors …. and I think that one of them is this: the person who is willing and able to continually re-invent themselves - has a huge advantage over the person who is unable or unwilling to do so.
It is difficult, if not impossible, to create a new paradigm while preserving the status quo. New realities are not created by doing the same old thing, or by being the same old person. Wanting change without being willing to change is nuts. Habits can be good and bad … but they can also be restrictive, in that they bind us to the status quo.
Nature loves genetic variation - for a reason! Genetic variation is what makes us all unique … the less variation, the more alike we all are - the greater the variation, the more differences. I feel that thinking works in much the same way … when our thoughts run along the same pathways and in common and familiar directions, then we cannot expect unusual outcomes.
The cross-pollination of ideas is one way we can change things in our lives; it’s a way we can come up with new ideas, new ways of living, new ways of being in the world. - JBW
Sunday, March 12, 2017
When I went to school I learned things like, french, latin, algebra, chemistry, english literature … etc.
When I left school I learned of things like logic, critical thinking, organisation, communication, investment, Asian languages, creative problem-solving … etc.
Guess you could say I started late. - JBW
Thursday, March 09, 2017
What stops people from taking action – whether it be hitting a technique in the heat of the struggle – buying that first/second/third property – clearing e-mail from inbox – distributing that new pamphlet for a budding business?
This is a very interesting topic – to myself at least. The difference between pulling the trigger/taking action and endless weighing and pondering is more often than not, the difference between living an extraordinary and successful life and one of mundane sameness.
There are usually a number of factors that inhibit people from taking action (fear of consequence, uncertainty, laziness, etc) – but among the most powerful of them is that of ‘lack of ownership’.
I have talked about the concept of ownership in many of my classes. One of the things I insist upon is that participants remember the techniques that I teach one week after I have finished teaching them. This seems like an obvious and easy request but in my experience, the majority of people cannot remember or replicate what was taught to them in say, a seminar, after even a single nights sleep has come and gone.
When teaching, I try to maximise the possibility of everyone remembering what we have covered; I do so because I understand that REMEMBERING is the first step toward taking full OWNERSHIP of any form of knowledge. WE need to bring new knowledge into our minds in the kind of way that allows us to DO SOMETHING WITH IT at a later date. One of the first things we need to do is to make a clear distinction between ACCESS TO INFORMATION and the OWNING of it.
We live in a world where oral traditions are rapidly becoming a relic of the past. Many would argue the need for holding information in our headspace, when we can easily access it on the internet, in books or on DVD’s? In my opinion however, these things are just tools that should be not be overly depended upon.
I feel that the reason people often fail to take decisive action is because they do not properly OWN the knowledge they have momentarily borrowed from outside sources. Once we take knowledge of a subject into our mind and have truly digested and taken ownership of it, some sort of ‘critical tipping point’ is reached and we allow ourselves to ACT.
Consider, how many people go and pay good money to learn how to make money with property investment; yet after the course is done, after they have read the books, studied the DVD’s and listed to the nicely dressed lecturer, more than 95% of them fail to take action. It is one thing to get someone’s head nodding in agreement; it is one thing to have them rep a technique a dozen times; it is one thing to fiddle around at designing a new pamphlet for a new business – but it is another thing entirely to move forward decisively with no hesitation and GET IT DONE.
What is it about us that sees our e-mail inbox overflow with already read e-mails? Personally, I really don’t get it. I have a compulsive need to have my own inbox cleared at the end of each day. I cannot abide by having things sitting there that need to be attended to. I was thinking about this last week and it occurred to me that oft times what prevents us from taking action is that we lack the necessary skill sets to get the job done right now; so we put it off until a later date (when presumably we feel we will have acquired those skill sets).
As Jiu Jitseiro’s we need to OWN our skills and not remain content to just have cursory exposure to them. This begins with practice, understanding, remembering (to the point of being able to reproduce them at a later date) and finally trying to make use of them in our practice. Understanding and Drilling are the first steps to ownership - followed closely by getting that first application under live-rolling conditions, under your belt.
Wednesday, March 08, 2017
Life is fraught with peril. There is risk in not crossing the road, there is risk in crossing the road and there is risk on the other side of the road. Risk is a part of life … sometimes, when we take risk, it pays dividends; at other times, the risks we take, demands a price. In BJJ, the price for risk-tasking behaviour can be as little as finding ourselves in a position where we need to tap - at other times, the risk-taking might even result in injury.
I’ve certainly had my share of injuries over the years … nothing too serious, but four knee-operations, one elbow operation and one heart op … that last was a little more serious I guess (all good now). Most of my injuries & subsequent operations have not kept me from the mat for more than a week or two; so really, they have pretty much amounted to some small amount koi forced rest, in most cases.
When someone says, ‘can’t train for a few weeks - got a broken finger’ - I cannot relate. A broke finger doesn’t stop us from working our Guard, it doesn’t stop us from doing a lot of things - in fact, if we decide to tuck the effected arm in our belt and pursue our training/rolling and usual … over time, we might even notice that our Guard improves. Then, when we get the use of our hand back, we make what almost amounts to being a drastic overnight improvement.
Of course, some injuries are seriously debilitating; back injuries for example, might see us on the couch, frozen into immobility. I’ve been on the nasty end of that also … but, as is usually the case, time passes, we get better and are back into the fray in short order.
Being strong - and functionally strong at that, is one of the ways we can drastically reduce the chance of injury - this is particularly important as we get older. Having strength, particularly at the more extreme ranges of our movement, gives us a little leeway when things go pear-shaped. But it is also very importantly to make the distinction between discomfort and injury; being sore after a solid session is okay, being nailed by a good ‘Neon- Belly’ doesn’t mean we are injured and need to take a break - in those instances, we are just experiencing discomfort - this is just a part of being alive.
When you are merely bruised, ignore and move forward, went you are merely bent, straighten up and move forward, when you are actually broken … find a way to move forward - plenty of people, have much larger challenges to overcome than petty injuries - and they find a way and they move forward. Moving forward is how we get places. - JBW
Thursday, March 02, 2017
Nature neither loves you or hates you - nature is indifferent. Most of the people in the world are similar in their feelings toward you; just like nature, they are neither trying to thwart you or help you … they are just indifferent.
Pessimists look at that indifference and see it as malevolence; optimists look at the indifference and see it as benevolence … I look and see it for what it is: indifference; I consider myself a realist.
Knowing this allows me to take full and complete responsibility for how my life unfolds. I am responsible for the mistakes and the successes alike. Responsibility … ‘ability to respond’ … respond to circumstances, respond to environmental considerations, respond to outside forces and internal whims/thought bubbles alike … JBW
It is the day you are thinking, breathing, playing, training, eating, loving and scratching your head ...
Tomorrow, today will be done ... but it will be there in the form of the canvas, upon which tomorrow is painted. So it serves in that regard. Make it a good canvas. Make it a great canvas.
Living is done moment by moment ... in that slice we deem present.
Tomorrow, today will be done ... but it will be there in the form of the canvas, upon which tomorrow is painted. So it serves in that regard. Make it a good canvas. Make it a great canvas.
Living is done moment by moment ... in that slice we deem present.
Wednesday, March 01, 2017
I have worked, played, struggled and cavorted on the martial arts landscape for more than 40 years now. I have seen my fair share of legends, champions, grinders and wanna-bees. I have seen many thousands of people come and go; it has also been a distinct pleasure to see a handful of amazing people go the distance, sustain the long-race and make very meaningful contributions in their own right. A wild ride, it has most certainly been.
One thing that has not escaped my attention though is the surprising number of champions/legends who, after decades of dedication and effort, have failed to see their mat/training successes translate into the other areas of their lives. Gold medals don’t pay rent; fame doesn’t necessarily translate into financial independence or deeply fulfilling relationships. I know quite a number of well-known martial arts celebrities who are well past their prime and don’t even own their own homes. This is not only astounding to me, is is sad and a pitiful waste of opportunity.
Such a situation may not sound all that bad to many but let me assure you that financial stress in ones 50’s and 60’s can send people spiralling into depression, it can break down seemingly solid relationships, and it can elicit bad-behaviour, envious feelings and can drastically change personalities. Perhaps even worse, after years of public adoration and celebrity-status, to find oneself alone and without family or loved ones, could be soul-destroying to say the least.
To be excellent at something is a wonderful thing to strive for … but to do so at the expense of the rest of your life, can prove to be a huge mistake in the long run. Trading in just 10% or 20% of our efforts, to achieve balance and success in other areas of our lives is something I strongly recommend.
Most people dream of turning their hobby into their profession; this can often come at a high price. A passion or hobby, doesn’t always or easily translate into the great living we think we deserve. Don’t let your dreams of today turn into the nightmares of tomorrow. Balance in all things and a little forward-thinking is the trick. Sometimes, for many of us, a hobby, a passion, should just remain that. We may even find a way to make some nice pocket-money on the side … but the leap from hobby to full-blown professional can be a longer and more precarious leap that many think.
If we are excellent at something we should be able to discover how we achieved excellence. With some thought, we may be able to apply some of that knowledge to rounding out our lives in other areas.
Thirty years ago I knew I had to round out my martial arts training; I knew there were great gaps in my skill and I sought to fill those gaps. It also occurred to me that there were aspects of my life that could evolve into problems down the track and so likes, I spent a small part of may attention on forestalling those problems. Trading in some small percentage of my martial arts fanaticism to attend to family, to set myself on a path to financial independence, to optimise my health (both mental and physical) has paid huge dividends over time.
Again, balance, forward thinking, enjoying the now, living a life replete with happiness, love and fulfilment … that, is rounding out our ‘game’. - JBW
Tuesday, February 21, 2017
When we deconstruct something, we learn a lot about howe it works. I remember doing this as a kid, when I got a new clock or a microscope or something cool, I would just want to take it apart and see how it works. I guess everyone has done this at some point. What’s inside there? What’s going on here? How does this thing work? all great questions.
Deconstructing technique though, can be challenging. There are many aspects of a technique that can be difficult to spot; things like ‘feel’, ‘weight distribution/focus’, ‘timing’, etc. Even after we glean and understanding of the various ‘elements’ of a technique, we need to ascertain the ‘firing order’ of these elements. To shoot a ‘low single’ … do we fold, drop, post and grab - or is it drop, fold post or grab … or drop, post fold and grab? The latter, is of course, the correct answer - but in thinking it through and examining it carefully, we begin to appreciate that the ‘firing order’ is very important.
Deconstruction of a technique, is like any skill; the more we do it, the more we practise, the better we get at it. Deconstruction is one of the pathways to deeper and more thorough understanding. Have at it. - JBW
Monday, February 20, 2017
Begin by gaining clarity on what you want. Then ask yourself what would it look like if you were almost there? Take note of that, for it represents your last step. Repeat the same thought experiment again and again, until you arrive back at wherever you are right now … then ignore all of those ‘more clearly defined’ steps, except the one right in front of your face. Put your intent and effort into making that single small step. The rest of the steps remain 'fuzzy' until they become the 'very next step'.
Mindful effort is the key to making progress toward the things you want to achieve. - JBW
Tuesday, February 07, 2017
Thriving is what life seeks to do. But what does it take to thrive? All the good stuff … yes, true enough; but it also takes a little hardship. The hardship is what propels us forward, what immunises us against attack (emotional, physical, etc). The hardship - the suck - provides us with a baseline from which we can transcend/emerge/grow.
Many of us know what it’s like to live in ‘survival mode’ - but our instinct (rightly so) is to extricate ourselves from such circumstance and seek out an existence that allows us to thrive instead. Thriving though, can come in many forms … it might be a cup of tea in the garden, a great conversation with a good friend, a roll on the mat, to win a contest, the pleasure we take from a good book, etc. Thriving isn’t just about bank balance and physical trappings - in fact, I have known people with plenty of that stuff, who I would say were not thriving by the slimmest definition.
Ask and answer this question: when do you most appreciate a simple thing like a warm fire and a hot drink? The answer obviously, is after you’ve been out in the cold experiencing the opposite … thriving is done by moving … moving from cold to warm, from no options to many options, from unhealthy to healthy … etc. And here’s the main point - to thrive, we need a certain amount of adversity in our lives.
Tuesday, January 31, 2017
It seems to be a very, very human trait, to seek out the opinions of those who validate our already held opinions. I still catch myself doing this from time to time. Yikes! But something my father taught me as a child … is to look at an idea, a belief, an argument, from all sides - before forming, my own opinion.
I remember waking with him one day in the Melbourne northern suburb of Fawkner (where we lived) - there was this house, sitting atop a small rise in a place where he used to walk the dog (dog’s name was Caesar). He pointed to the house and asked me what colour it was … ‘white’ I replied. He said ‘It’s white on the side we can see - sure. What about the other sides? Go and check.’ I remember running up the hill, Caesar running with me - to check it out. Sure enough, the house was white on all sides … I ran back to my dad and let him know. He then began telling me just how important it was to always check things from all perspectives - and how it’s just too easy to make assumptions. A great lesson - one that I didn’t really value to much later in life. Thanks dad!
So now, as I find myself forming an opinion, I try to seek out someone who holds an alternative view - before coming to my own conclusions. The devil’s advocates view, will either modify our own perspective or help to strengthen it. Look at everything from all sides … perspectives are many and often entangled. - JBW
Friday, January 20, 2017
Living on struggle-street isn’t a pleasant experience. Getting a vaccine isn’t a pleasant experience either; but our reaction to that vaccine makes us much more robust and insures us against a much more serious problem down the line.
We don’t need to live on struggle-street to reap the robust-ifying benefits. Just take a stroll down there now and then.. Struggle-street is a place to visit; it’s there we find mental toughness, endurance, fortitude, perspective and a host of other fortifying gifts.
The mat (and life) has always provided me with an ingress to struggle-street; but there an infinite number of such places/opportunities to take a stroll down struggle street ... the gym, a book, a hill, the ocean, a mountain, a staircase, a relationship, a bank loan, etc …. opportunities for embracing the suck, abound - so seek them out and prepare for change. Start small, if you have any say in it ... and your reaction to the 'struggle' might well surprise you - it will most certainly change you. This is how we move from a 'fragile state' to a 'robust state'.
Thursday, January 19, 2017
The most important distinction between the adequate and the exceptional is that the exceptional person created for him or herself an essential habit - that of paying attention to detail in the things they attend to.
Rising to excellence in all that we do is really about a clear understanding of the value of time - our time. The sand runs through the hourglass for all of us, rich, poor, fast, slow, short, tall short, male and female alike. Keep in mind, this simple truth - whatever we are doing, we are trading some of these most precious grains of sand for that thing … in a very real way, how we spend our time represents the real value of that time. So consider, very carefully, what value we want to attach to those sands as they empty from our respective hourglasses … I for one, want to extract the most value I can, from each and every grain.
if you are there - doing it (whatever ‘it’ is) - do it well; do it with ‘full mindfulness’ - do it as if it truly, truly matters - because it does matter; it’s your ’time’ that you are trading for the doing of it. I want to extract the maximum value form this gossamer moment we call ‘life’ …
I wish you the very same …
Monday, January 16, 2017
For half of my life, I had few possessions, lived pretty much day-to-day … but always I managed to find a way forward. I was just as happy in those ‘lean’ times as I am today (homeowner, nice car, etc) … because I was living an adventure.
Unlike many people though, I always had a safety net. I always had friends who would give me a place to stay and parents who had a room and a hot meal in the ready. So even my ‘lean’ times, were not all that difficult. There are countless human beings living in this world, for whom every single day is a true struggle for survival; there are countless innocents killed in conflict, countless others wrongfully imprisoned, homeless who have nothing to look forward to, parents struggling to keep their children alive … so for all of us who are able to read this post, it’s worthwhile pausing a moment to consider how lucky, how fortunate we actually are.
We should always be on the lookout for meaningful and effective ways ti change people’s lives for the better … I am not a far left socialist, I don’t believe in the government taking what I have earn’t (mismanaging it) and giving it to anyone who puts their hand up …. yet, I do want to find ways to help those who need help and those who are struggling through circumstance rather than choice.
I want to succeed in my life, but never at the expense of others. I always want to keep one foot in those back-alleys of my youth. We all need to remember, for many, the struggle is very, very real.
Sunday, January 15, 2017
The ‘trial’ is the easy part - it’s the ‘error’ that provides the challenging bit.
We can all try stuff, have a go at this or that, embark on a new direction, experiment, etc … that is easy; even fun; but remember, there is always a price to pay for such endeavours; oft times that price is small, others times it might even cost us our life; but there’s always a price.
The thing is to weigh up the risks and get clarity on what the price is actually likely to be. On the mat, when we try a new sweep or attack or escape - the price (if we fail) might mean that we tap. This is basically akin to zero-cost! A slight bruising of the ego - at most.
At other times, say in investing in real estate, we want to have done our homework; we want to have asked (and answered) questions like: what is the area like, how easily will be able to service any debt; what outcomes are we expecting and over what time period, etc.
We try swimming in a pool while wearing floaties … risk minimal. We try swimming in a flooding river with a pack on our back (I’ve done both) … risk considerable.
Learning to see the risks for what they represent is one life’s great lessons. And guess what? Yep - like any skill; we get better with practise. Take a small risk today.
Thursday, January 12, 2017
I thank Meryl Streep for her recent commentary on MMA - for even though it elicited a push-back from the martial arts community, it has also got us thinking …
So … what is art? What constitutes art? Who gets the final say as to whether something is considered ‘art’ … or whether or not someone should be worthy of the title ‘artist’? Deep questions … put your slippers on, lay back … and if you wish … read on.
My own (visceral) understanding of the ‘art’ doesn’t come from a socratic quote or a google search - it comes from my own immersion in and life-long study of the combative arts. Well … that and a not entirely ignorant understanding of history and human endeavour.
Ancient Greece contributed a lot to the idea of what constitutes art. I am more a fan of Aristotle than Plato, in that Aristotle believed that art offered a pathway to learning through the experience of being an artist. This has also been my own personal experience - so I’ll go with that.
It is interesting to note than much of the early artistic expression in Greece was based around the aesthetic of the athletic form and the beauty to be found in struggle. Just saying …
Many cultures throughout history (Japanese, Middle Easter, etc) have given far more weight to martial artistic forms than to other types of art - perhaps because human contest/struggle/war often played a far more intimate role in the daily life of the populace. And art, has always reflected culture … it has always reflected what sat in the minds of the population. As it still does today.
So, now … onto the meaty part …
Who labels what is art and what is not? It could be argued that it is the public who confers such titles. No-one would argue that William Blake was not an artist (today) but he was unrecognised in his own day. It was only well after his death, that he became recognised as one of Europes artistic greats. Even he (Blake) said himself, that he wasn’t writing for his contemporaries but for future generations. My point is, art is very often not recognised as such until the population catches up.
If a painter sits alone on a desert island and immerses him or herself into their painting, is that person an artist? Do we need an audience to define the artist? Should the artist care? Personally, I doubt real artists care much. They consider themselves, writers, painters, grapplers, dancers, poets … not artists. I think it’s up to others to confer the title of artist upon them … or not. It probably matters not to the actual artist.
So any who might stand in judgment of who is or isn’t an artist is standing on very thin ice indeed. As this is something the serious artist might well struggle to do him/herself … they’re almost certainly too busy painting, writing, dancing, etc.
The thing about these explorers of the human condition is that they go deeper than most people will ever go, with respect their passion. And this is hugely important … in drilling down, they make discoveries that they can share with the rest of the world … with those folk who are too busy with their lives to do the deep drilling themselves. This is what the artist brings to the world.
As far as martial artists are concerned … many of them spend a great amount of time in deep, deep struggle and exploration. They also spend time confronting aspects of the human condition that most people spend their entire lives avoiding (fear, loss, triumph of spirit, emotional control under duress, etc)
In terms of MMA, football, etc … the discussion as to whether this constitutes sport or art could be a long and hotly-debated one … I will say though, that I think it has a lot to do with individual ’motive’. With deep caring and a willingness to explore and push boundaries, an athlete can transform him or herself from athlete to artist. It probably has more to do with how we go about doing what we do rather than what it is we are actually doing.
The public will judge as time, tide and cultural/political forces permit.
What has MMA boomed in recent decades? There are many reasons but perhaps it can be boiled down to this …. there is something inside us that yearns to witness the primal struggle.
We might admit that the MMA/boxing, wrestling contest speaks to some deep human yearning … a human thing that has spoken to us throughout our turbulent and wonderful history. And art … as we know, has always reflected life.
People understand and can relate to struggle (most can anyways) and so it’s no surprise that beautiful athletic endeavour can speak to us and even transmute us as human beings … and that is exactly what art is supposed to do.
Lastly, as a life-long teacher and practitioner of the martial arts, I can say without any reservation that I have seen many lives change for the better for their engagement in the combative struggle. I have seen people morph from the angry thug to a beautiful and caring human being … if there is art to be seen anywhere, there may be some present in that wonderful alchemy.
Do I consider myself an artist? After reflection I realise I do not care whether I am labelled as such or not; I am too busy drilling deep, being mindfully engaged in the transformative process that is my chosen field. Let others judge … I care not.
Saturday, January 07, 2017
THE YOUNGEST OF US MAY LIVE A VERY, VERY LONG TIME … THE OLDER, PROBABLY NOT SO MUCH … SO WHAT CAN WE DO … IN 2017?
As I was almost certainly born a tad too late to benefit from the leaps in genetic/CRISPR science that will no doubt lead to greatly increased lifespans during the next generation or so. So all I have left is the simple strategy of figuring out ways to extract more value from the time I do have left. So my intention is to try and immerse myself more fully in whatever I am doing; to do my best to try and notice more, and thereby make any experiences I have, all the more richer. I am therefore interested in any ways I can slow down that inevitable stream of sand running through the hourglass … and taking a better look at each and every grain./
There is an old saying - ‘the cat that jumps is not the cat that lands’. In any given moment, an infinite number of changes are taking place in the world (and wider universe) around us.
And every minuscule change in that physical world is contributing to the concept we call ‘duration’ (a measurement of time). Time, we could say, is the method by which we quantify the changes in the configuration of the universe/reality (as we understand it to be).
There has been some work done on the study of this concept of time …
In one experiment, participants were asked to sit in front of a computer screen that continuously flashed the same image of a shoe. Every once in awhile, the monotony was broken with a picture of a flower. The participants believed that the flower stayed on the screen longer, when in fact it cycled through just as quickly as the shoes.
The thinking is that the flower seemed to linger because its novelty spurred the participants to pay greater attention to it. And the more attention we give to something, the more memory is laid down, and so our perception of duration seems longer.
I like this idea. if we are immersed in something (learning/action activity/etc) to the point where are giving it our full attention, then we are ‘encoding’ novel memory and, upon reflection, we feel differently about how time has actually passed.
I wish each of you a longer and more fully experienced 2017! Make it a year of rich experience and immersion in the moment. very best wishes:
Tuesday, January 03, 2017
We can’t fix where we start in life …
There is no time machine we can use to go back and fix the past - we can’t fix who our parents were, where we were born and a myriad of other things that have preceded our existence to this point. What we can do is attend to our current circumstances, make good decisions, take action and create our future.
For the whiners, this is an unpopular notion. I though, have long-since realised, that whining or complaining about our past, achieves nothing. I have always preferred to take action.
Decision-making, in many cases much more than circumstances, effect how our lives unfold. This is not a popular notion; many, many people find it easier to blame their circumstances for their lack of success; or point to how others are doing well because of their ‘privilege’, etc. It is difficult for us to ‘own’ our decisions; especially our bad decisions; and I have made plenty!
I am reminded of the gambler who is happy to tell you about their latest win - but who never speaks about their latest loss. Owning our bad decisions can be difficult, but it can also be very, very instructive.
Many make decisions based on intuition/feeling/gut instinct … which can be (sometimes) surprisingly effective. Through use of the ‘rule of thumb’, we can make decisions quickly and more easily sometimes. Others, like to have all the information they can find before weighing it up and making their decision (this is the way I most often like to decide on things) - but this at times, and with certain people, can lead to mental ‘log jam’ and make it difficult for some to ‘pull the tigger’ and take action.
No matter how we come to our decisions though, there his little doubt that these decisions are largely responsible for how our lives unfold. We should own our decisions; both good and bad. Learn from the bad ones and from the good ones alike.
Someone one told me (Robert Kiyosaki, for those interested) - that our decision-making process is kind of analogous to the way a heat-seeking missile works. It heads off in a random direction, then asks a simple question, ‘hotter or colder?’ - and then makes course-corrections - eventually, smaller and smaller corrections, until it zero’s in on the target. I remember being impressed by this … as it gave me permission to make bad decisions (colder) but as long as I realised it and was willing to ‘course-correct’ then it could be seen, not only as good, but an integral part of success-seeking behaviour.
Decide - Own - Learn - Decide again. Oh - and never replace Own with Blame. That is a sure fire way to kill the process dead in it’s tracks.
Sunday, January 01, 2017
Each of us will make countless decisions this coming year, some good, others less so … but our decisions are all very important, as they ultimately determine how out lives will unfold. But here’s something to consider … they will also determine how others lives will unfold.
Our decisions and the actions that follow them, have consequences.
In my own experience, I have both learned - and viscerally realised - that when my choices benefit others, my own life gets better. I may decide on a course of action - that at it’s core is based on self-interest - but if it is a good decision, others will also benefit from it. Collateral benefit is one of the best reasons to embark on any course of action.
As the bee collects the pollen, the flowers benefit from cross-pollination … one of the beautiful truths underpinning the natural world.
Wishing all a wonderful year ahead - one that propels you forward and helps others along the way.
Thursday, December 29, 2016
In my more formative years, I spend quite a bit of time in South Asia. If I had have been asked, at that time, why I was travelling to Indonesia, Thailand, etc … I would probably have talked about my quest to learn about the martial arts of those regions. What I was actually embarking on though, was a quest to find myself, a quest to help crystallise my identity.
Young people are all trying to figure out who they are? Such a puzzle marks the transition from teenager into adulthood. Most cultures that I know of, historically had some form of ritual that marked this transition … but in western society (at least in my own case) we are largely left to figure out what those rights of passage might be for ourselves. Challenging, to say the least!
Where are the guidelines for these rights of passage? I propose that they are contained - in their myriad forms - in the various sub-cultures that we expose ourselves to 9or are exposed to), in young adulthood and continually, throughout the course of our lives.
And this brings me to my point, most of us, expose ourselves to a variety of sub-culture groups as we mature - unlike the tribal situations of old, where most people were born, lived and died within their respective groups, in today’s world things are different. The tricky part is that the rights of passage cannot be universally agreed upon (not should they) - the best thing though, is that we always have opportunities for a do-over. We can always choose new friends, surround ourselves with new groups of people, visit other cultures, immerse ourselves in a myriad of forms of learning.
My advice is simple … choose wisely with whom and how you spend your time. As we build ourselves, we don’t chisel away, as with sculpture - we build on, we add and we modify. We should think about the quality of the clay we are using to form the latest (and best) versions of ourselves. And the types of clay available range from the downright toxic, to the marvellously authentic and interesting.
The New Year is as good a time as any to think about the clay we will add in the year to come … so Happy Choosing to each and everyone - as we slide from this year into the next.
Wednesday, December 28, 2016
Times they are a changing … apparently. And so they should - but not all changes are for the better. I am talking about the rise of the ’snowflake’ - that delicate breed (found in campuses the world over) that recoils in horror from ‘micro-aggressive discourse’ - who screams and whines at the slightest use of so-called ‘weighted language’ - who, apparently requires a ‘safe space’ and ‘calming/soothing’ activities like clay-modelling and colouring books when confronted with ‘harsh opinion’ or ‘non-inclusive’ nomenclature. OMG!
I wonder how these delicate creatures are going to cope when the real world knocks them to the pavement and delivers a couple of good kicks in the guts?
I have always welcomed duress; and I imagine my own father thought I was soft, after what his generation went through.
My aunt, who was a very high-level educator (here in Australia) used to say that we would be way better off getting out of our own culture and travelling for a few years - before beginning our study at university (college for my USA friends). We need to get out there and get our scars - we need to harden up - to grow a thick skin - to build a robust emotional immune system. The world can indeed be a tough place (for the non-immunized) … I fear for the poor little snowflakes.
So … my advice to the snowflakes is this ‘man up’ … oh shit- I think I just offended someone!
Friday, December 23, 2016
Throughout much of my life, I have talked up the concept of ‘excellence’; I have spoken about the benefits of leaving ‘mediocrity’ in our wake; I have bemoaned the widespread philosophy of ‘good enough to get by’ … but in doing so I have on occasion been misunderstood. So allow me to clear something up …
If we learn to look and learn to see, we can find the extraordinary in the ordinary. It is possible to find the extraordinary beauty in the day-to-day aspects of our lives; we don’t need to climb Everest to bathe in the amazing. Extraordinary acts can be simple things, small things that might even go unnoticed by most. Offering a coffee to the mailman-woman - a small extra-ordinary act that might turn their day around; going for a walk with someone and offering advice with no thought of recompense; being mindful whilst undertaking an activity that we usually pay little or no attention to; fasting for a day or two and then really tasting a meal that we carefully prepare for ourselves; etc.
You don’t have to be wealthy to experience the extraordinary; you don’t have to climb a mountain to experience the extraordinary; you don’t have to win a gold medal, buy a new house, or deadlift 300kgs … the extraordinary can be hidden from ordinary view, but it can surround us at every turn … secreted behind the thin veneer of ordinary, day-to-day life. Lift the curtain today. Be extraordinary.
Wednesday, December 14, 2016
I love that my son Felix heads to the local supermarket every friday, saturday and sunday - to stack shelves and earn himself some pocket-money. He has a great work ethic - he fully understands that we need to ‘earn’ things in life: we need to earn money (to make our way); we need to earn any skills we might want; we need to earn our happiness; we need to earn the trust of others, etc. Anything worthwhile needs to be earned. My father taught me the value of earning as I am now trying to do in the case of my own son. Something earned is also something valued.
On the mat we need to learn the technique; then we need to drill the technique; then we need to pressure-test it; until we finally take some level of ownership of it … in other words, we need to earn it.
All the great stuff is earned. When we earn it, we enjoy it, we appreciate it, we understand what we have traded for it and in doing so, we attribute value. Learn to earn … a serious skill in and of itself.
Monday, December 12, 2016
I abhor the erosion of free speech. I oppose any who would condemn the idea of free speech. Nowadays people feel they have the right to be legally protected from what others might say. Holy shite! That sort of thinking heralds the beginning of the end of free-speech!
We should be able to openly express our views; if others are offended by our views, then the responsibility lies with them to deal with that. I don’t like the censorship of ideas; I don’t like people being burn’t at the stake for their ideas; I don’t like people being threatened for drawing a cartoon that offends a segment of the population; I don’t like the fact that someone can be vilified for stating what they think. To temper this belief - I also think that civilized people shouldn’t go around offending others for the sake of it; but if we are arguing for a belief of some kinD, or defending our position on something, then all bets are off (in my opinion).
People, in my view, should be free to say what they like about me; about my beliefs, opinions, etc - and I , of course, should be free to defend my position (if I can) … words are words. If I am offended, then that is my problem … I should be able to defend my position with rational argument. Our grandparents knew better … ‘stick and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me’. The new generation needs to harden up a little methinks …
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