Wednesday, July 19, 2017


Throwing a wide net ...

I like reading, listening to podcasts, watching videos/programs, listening to a wide range of other people’s views and then trying to tidy it all up into a view that I am happy to hold - at least until I am convinced otherwise (in fact, often hoping that I am). This goes to the heart of what learning is all about; we gather as much information as we can, and then make assessments, arrive at conclusions and form opinions about the world we live in. - JBW

Monday, July 17, 2017


Talking and thinking ...

When people are speaking, they are basically thinking out loud. When we listen to someone bluster and rant; or grunt and deride - we get an insight into the way they think. When we listen to someone describe a carefully considered opinion, we get an insight into the way they think. We utter and mutter and in so doing, we reveal our thinking.

Talking is (to a large degree) just thinking out loud. Getting our thoughts and opinions in order pays dividends over time; the clearer we are with our thinking, the better we become at communicating with others.

As we all crystallise our opinions on things and polish the lens through which we view the world, we can begin to improve our ability to express our thinking and our views to others. Through reading, debate, conversation, life-experience, travel and study we become better at articulating our world view and in so doing, we become better positioned to make our own contributions on the landscapes we inhabit. - JBW

Sunday, July 16, 2017


The spark ...

From my childhood

An over-reaction perhaps … but in response to being bullied for a couple of years as a child, I looked to martial arts training as a solution. Back then, there were very few training opportunities available to me - so my father (who really knew his way around a fight) taught me what would later serve as a fairly solid foundation for my life’s pursuit.

Comic-books, rather than video games, were the thing back then. I, like most kids, has a large collection. I was endlessly fascinated by the ads I saw therein; they promised all kinds of wonderment … and at the time, were a kind of inspiration for how I would later on, design my life.

It’s funny, almost comical (pun right there) how certain things inspire and motivate us. I have always felt that inspiration comes first - and everything else follows. We ‘reality-making’ beings … everything starts with a thought, an internal whim … a spark of the imagination. - JBW

Sunday, June 11, 2017


Collateral Benefit …

I have long been interested in the concept of collateral benefit.
This is the idea that even though I might choose to do something for personal reasons - if others stand to directly benefit from my choices and actions - then I have a very strong indicator that I am on a successful path.

I understand on a visceral level that this is ‘deep principle’ at work. In fact, I use the collateral benefit structure to ‘test’ my own decisions about doing things in my own life. 
‘Does this helps others?’ - YES/NO
‘Do I want to do this?’ - YES/NO
Yes/yes … and and the way forward is clear.

The bee collects the pollen - and in doing so, effects cross-pollination between plants. Yes/Yes. And so the world works. - JBW

Friday, June 09, 2017



It isn’t so important to talk about integrity - just be a person of your word. it isn’t so important to talk about loyalty - just be loyal. It isn’t so important to talk about being generous - just be kind. Talk is easy - our actions define who we really are. 

Imagine your married and your spouse keeps telling you how loyal he or she is - yikes - that would be worrisome! Humans are creatures of action … and oft times, our chatter and verbiage let’s us down.

One of my very favourite sayings - from a book entitled ARMOR by John Steakley - is as follows: ‘You are what you do when it counts’. The protagonist in the book is called Felix; the inspiration behind the naming of my boy. A great read about fear, taming instinct and becoming. One of the messages of the story, is that it doesn’t so much matter what you feel or say - ultimately it is what you do that really matters - and especially, what you do, when under pressure, highly inconvenienced or when your actions actually ‘cost’ you. 

We are defined by our actions … words are important, yes - but actions leave footprints and have real effect on the world.

  • JBW

Thursday, June 08, 2017


Durability ...

Durability is a good trait - a useful trait for life - and one that can make the difference between us ‘folding’ under pressure or ’pushing through’. Durability, can be both a physical durability and also, a thing of the mind. Mental durability is perhaps, the more important of the two.

There are all kinds of mental durability - we might have the kind of durability that allows us to more easily process criticism than others - we may have the kind of durability that equips us to push through hardship when others might throw in the towel - we  might have a durability of memory, allowing us to recall things and lessons we have learned a long time ago - we might posses the kind of mental durability that us to perform the mental gymnastics needed to solve certain kinds of problems, etc.

Durability is something we can hone and develop. Physical durability to easy to acquire … strength and conditioning training allows us to make big gains in this area; mental durability is more tricky as their are so many flavours available to us. The approach though, to the acquisition of durability is almost always the same - we expose ourselves, little by little, to the challenging thing … and over time, our mental faculties adapt and we become more durable. 

Increasing our exposure to stress - of various kinds - can greatly increase our durability. Our minds don’t like stress, in the same way that our physical; bodies don’t like physical stress … it is not the stress though, that is good, it is our response to that stress that makes us stronger and more durable. Durability - the invisible Superpower. 


Tuesday, June 06, 2017


Another Bedrock Misunderstanding ...

The Universe is my friend: The universe, like nature, is not your friend - it doesn’t care if you live well or die horribly - the universe is not a conscious entity. We can think warm and fuzzy thoughts about nature and how we should live in harmony with it but an earthquake or a lion will both still dispatch us in short order. Instead sending your thoughts out into the universe in the hope that something wonderful will happen, just plan and take action - that’s how actual stuff gets done. - JBW

Thursday, June 01, 2017


A little about a lot ...

Specialisation can unearth insight and deep understanding - but specialisation to the exclusion of everything else can lead to lost opportunity and an inability to adapt. Besides, when we specialise in something - extra effort invested in that particular area will probably only yield incremental returns - whereas investing our effort in areas we know littler to nothing about, will likely yield a huge return for time invested. Know a little about a lot ... be a Jack of all Trades, if you will. Be a well-rounded, adaptable and knowledge-hungry being. After all, your time is being spent -= whether you like it or not.

Tuesday, May 30, 2017


The beautification of the functional

Functionality, whilst important, is not everything. if we ‘settle’ for just those functional aspects of a thing - we will find ourselves ‘settling’ pretty early on, in our exploration of that thing. Whilst functionality is central to the concept of survival and evolution - it still, in many ways, leaves us wanting.

Consider cooking - whilst we could easily design and prepare a functional ‘dish’, one that fulfilled our nutritional requirements perfectly, we continue to come up with new dishes, new recipes, new ways of combining ingredients in ways that stimulate our senses. Most of us would find ourselves quickly bored if we just stopped trying to develop new approaches to cooking once we had ticked all the nutritional boxes. Human beings want something more than mere functionality.

The same applies to the martial arts. If we train for the purposes of functionality alone, we would find ourselves getting bored, in pretty short order. We know when we are looking at something that transcends functionality; it is at once impressive, beautiful and inspirational. We are driven to go further; to build on top of; to refine, to create to transcend. 

This is an aspect of art that spills over into the daily aspects of our lives. With functionality ’squared away’ - we can stand on the shoulders of Maslow (Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs) and each contribute in our own way to the betterment and beautification of something we love.

Saturday, May 27, 2017


Looking backward ... Looking forward

Looking backward can be instructive … i.e.: mustn’t do that ever again … or … yikes, that was great, must repeat! But the past is just that, the past … it’s downstream … and time spent there, is often time misspent.
Looking forward is very useful … planning, visualising, day-dreaming, possibility-thinking … it allows us to get stuff done. But if we spend all of our time looking forward, we might very easily miss out on reaping enjoyment from the present.
Being present is where great living is done - where most of our living is done in fact. When we are in a state of action - we are usually ‘highly present’ … perhaps that is a big part of the appeal of action-filled activities; they tether us to the present. 
Truth is … we need balance. The time-machine that is our pre-frontal cortex allows us to recall lessons and memories from the past, plan forward into the future - and enjoy the now we call present. 

I know people who are all about the present - but they have failed to plan for the future, and it has arrived … and it isn’t as pretty as they has hoped. I have known people who spend all their time moaning and dwelling on past hardships … and they have failed to uncouple from that past and are unable/unwilling to move forward and re-invent themselves. The trick - as always - is to get the balance right. Balance in all things. - JBW

Tuesday, May 23, 2017


On Leadership ...

Leaders need to understand the power of congruence. They cannot get away with saying one thing and doing another for very long. I am reminded of a favourite Latin quote ‘Acta non Verba’ …  Actions; not words! 

Leaders are constantly being assessed; and their critics are harsh and often unforgiving. The experienced leader comes to understand that the communication between people occurs on many levels; leaders are judged by the way they behave, by the way they conduct ourselves, by the way they speak, by the way they look, by the decisions they make, by the outcomes they achieve, etc. The worthiness of a leader is subject to constant scrutiny; after all, people are placing responsibility for their safety, their success, their development, etc - in a leaders hands. And so they SHOULD be scrutinised!

To be a leader is take on tremendous responsibility. Leaders need to be exceptional people; there are very few people who will think an ordinary person will take them to an extraordinary destination; as most intuitively understand that ordinary people do ordinary things, which most often, afford only ordinary results. Those seeking to leave mediocrity in their wake, instinctively seek out extraordinary leaders to help show them the way.

A large part of a leaders job is to inspire others to follow; and the ability to do so requires a harmonic balance between words and actions. To take up the mantle of leadership is to undertake a departure from the ordinary; this can be both challenging and rewarding in the extreme. Collaboration between people is how extraordinary things are accomplished - and the art of leadership brings rudder, sail, wind and navigation skills together in a way that sees everyone gets to where they want to be.

The first task of a would-be leader is to embark on a study of themselves. We cannot lead others without knowing them; and we cannot know them until we first know ourselves. At it’s core, leadership is an inward journey of self discovery; a journey replete with triumph, curiosity, understanding, sacrifice and failure. A journey no ordinary person would willingly undertake.

  • JBW

Saturday, May 20, 2017


Balance ...

We need balance in our lives. Knowing a lot about something should never preclude us from knowing at least a little about a lot of things. 
Being the best at something doesn’t automatically translate into living a great life; no more than being a great pilot would mean that your were a great architect. The awesome part is this ... knowledge, nowadays, is rarely more than a few key-strokes away. Broaden ... deepen, yes ... but broaden also .... JBW

Thursday, May 11, 2017


Simplification of the complex

I have said it before, and i'll say it again now; it was the simplicity of BJJ that initially captured my attention but it as been the complexity and nuance that has kept me invested in the longer term (over three decades at the point of this offering). In short, the simplicity got me there but the complexity kept me there.

For a year or two now, my focus has shifted; I have a clearer purpose and am applying my attention toward a new project; and essentially it is this ... to simplify the complex.

There are a plethora of different themes we might attend to in our BJJ development. The ever-increasing variety of Guard-styles, the many different styles of attacks; omoplata's, the crucifix, back-taking and attacks, leg controls and attacks, kimura's & americana's, loop-chokes, the triangle family (triangles, anaconda's, darce's and kata gatame chokes), pre-clinch takedowns (shoots), post-grip takedowns (throws), escapes, guard retention concepts, the list goes on, and on, and on. We might also break the art up into it's various positions ... side control, mount, knee-ride, etc - there is certainly no shortage of projects or ways in which we might allocate our attention.

Think of any one of these aforementioned themes - and it should occur to us that each sprang from an initial idea - or 'seed' (root) concept. At one time, for example, there was a seed or fundamental half-guard, ashi-garami or triangle choke concept - to name a few examples. The seed idea of a theme is usually a very robust idea ... logically it must be so, for it to survive long enough to evolve in both complexity and nuance. 

Sometimes, the seed idea has already been beautifully and elegantly designed - I have also come to realise that in many instances, the seed idea can be improved upon or even more elegantly organised over it's original form. The process of simplification, paradoxically, is a complex one; to reduce an endlessly growing puzzle back into an easily-manageable idea or two, is largely about drawing a distinction between the core ideas of a thing and the endless variations that may blossom forth from that idea. 

Once an idea has developed to the point of producing dozens of iterations of itself, it can be very difficult to identify exactly how it began in the first place. This can make for a somewhat confusing landscape - the more elements on that landscape and the more difficult things become. Simplifying the complex … is a very interesting and worthwhile task. And so the work continues … exciting times. - JBW

Friday, May 05, 2017


An authentic life ...

Authenticity describes a harmonic balance between who we are when others are watching and who we are when we are alone.  The concept is inseparable from that of congruent living. 

Ultimately, I feel that authentic living is a liberating experience. It takes and effort of will and a lot of energy to maintain a facade that is not truly representative of who we are. Being authentic, of course, opens us up to attack and criticism, so we need to be at a place in our lives where we are okay with that. And it’s not easy to invite criticism; I for one, have never liked it. 

I now understand though, that criticism of our beliefs, ideas, opinions and actions is necessary for our development and growth as human beings. Criticism is necessary to help test these things and provide feedback that can allow us to make adjustments and improvements. 

Living in an authentic way is to breathe easy. It is to live in an open way; to be transparent; to be fully open to the acceptance of new ideas, better ways to do things, a change of world-view. Perhaps being authentic is, in a way, a kind of returning to a more childlike state. As children we were open to everything; we were natural explorers, effortless learners, etc.

In returning to such a state, with the huge benefit of experience and hindsight, we can become a sort of wise-child. Authentic living can permeate all aspects of our lives … moving into a state where we care less about what others think of us, frees up a lot of energy that we can put into bettering both ourselves and the world we inhabit. Plus, think of at the savings you make by not buying into plastic surgery, facelifts, and the myriad other ego-driven investments that people make to engender the approval of others. We have one life to live - we might as well live that life in the most liberating way we can. We should not be slaves to the opinions of others.

  • JBW

Tuesday, May 02, 2017


The Great Escapes …

Escapes and defence build confidence. 
Anyone who has been rolling/fighting long enough, knows this to be a truth.

If we hone our abilities to extricate ourselves from difficult situations, paradoxically, this allows us to be more ‘attack-oriented’ than we otherwise would be. The greater our ability to escape from bad positions, the more likely we are to attempt submissions, because there is less downside should we fail. The trapeze artist with a large net under him doesn’t worry about trying the ‘triple’ - he knows he’s safe if he fails. Take the net away, and never expect to see anyone attempt anything but the most conservative tricks. In the world of the trapeze artist - the net provides the confidence - in BJJ, our ability to escape and defend provides the confidence.

Working escapes is the ‘less sexy’ side of BJJ. Attacks, sweeps and the latest ‘shiny winning moves’ have a definite appeal - but the development of ‘other side of the coin’ - escapes and defence  - pays, in many ways, bigger dividends. Here are a few core ideas, relating to escapes and defence:

  • Small gains: Don’t expect to be able to solve a problem, that has evolved over a series of small mistakes, in one big move. If it took us 10 steps to find ourselves neck-deep in a swamp, expect it to take 11 steps to get out. A series of incremental improvements in our situation is easier to execute than one all-out effort; plus, it is obviously more energy efficient. Annoy our way out!
  • Once we are confident that we are ‘getting out’, slow down a little and look for opportunities (grips/positioning, etc) that might be useful in the seconds to follow. Don’t always be satisfied with just ‘getting out’ - there are often great opportunities to be taken advantage of, on the way out.
  • Start chaining/linking our escapes with follow-up attacks. In the early stages (and often in later years) of our BJJ training, we are happy to just ‘get out’ - later on though, as we become more comfortable with a particular escape, we want to try to move seamlessly into a follow up technique.
  • Understand that we can always practise our escapes/defense from various points along the defence continuum: i.e.: we can work our defence very early, before the opponent really gets a bite on us; we can practise once he has consolidated his position/technique; or, we can practise ‘last chance’ escapes/defense - all are relevant, all important (but keep in mind, of course, an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure.
  • Make the opponent move; always be on the lookout for ways to make he or she have to move/adjust their position. my coppices used to ask us to ‘poke the balloon’ - find the part of it that is weaker and thinner than the other parts, an ‘pop’ it. Don’t just keep hammering away (fruitlessly) in one direction if it is not working.

A common ‘old school’ practise was what we call ‘in the hole’ training. Put ourselves in the bad position with a partner, work our defense/escape. Repeat with a ‘fresh’ partner - then again with the original partner, for a predetermine time/round. This old drill requires groups of three people - but is very good for developing our BJJ immune system. 

One of the huge pay-offs for engaging in challenging activities is that we become more robust. The development of a strong immune system comes through exposure to challenge; so rather than always avoiding difficulty - we should spend some of our time, actively seeking it out.

Best wishes - JBW

Monday, May 01, 2017


The information age …

I remember when I first heard the term ‘information age’ - it was at a Robert Kiyosaki seminar some 30 years ago. The information age was hailed as an era of liberation - an open door through which we might step onto a new landscape, upon which anything would be possible. After all, who wouldn’t want more information?
Turns out though, that ‘information’, just like many other things, comes in a variety of flavours. There is relevant information, irrelevant information, the useful and the useless, the true and the false alike …. the noise, the chatter, the gossip, the opinion, the latest newsflash … it all comes down the information pipeline at an ever-increasing rate. Teasing quality from the quantity can be an exercise fraught with frustration.
Sometimes it’s good to just take some quiet time; read a book, engage in exercise … and turn down the volume a little. The world has become busier (and louder) for us than it was for our parents. Remember, not all that glitters is gold … and not every squeaky wheel deserves the oil.
Learn to let a lot of it just ‘slide by’ … it doesn’t all deserve your attention. - JBW

Wednesday, April 26, 2017


And so, it rains …

I’ts really coming down outside at the moment … I love looking out of my lounge room into my garden.
As I watch the rain … it occurs to me, that no matter how hard it is coming down (though I love it) I know it will eventually stop.
Even though I like the rain … I need to accept that it will eventually stop. If my outlook though, was such that didn’t like the rain - I can take comfort in knowing that it will eventually stop. Either way, the rain will stop. 

Sunday, April 23, 2017


Each of us are built on the shoulders of others …

It is good (and important) to remember where we have come from. Understanding that what skills we posses, what knowledge we have, comes largely from the efforts of others. We might achieve success or notoriety through our personal efforts but very, very rarely could this be done without the help of many others. Ultimately, this is how society, and human endeavour continues to move forward … we stand on the shoulders of those who came before us … and see a little further as a result. 

On the martial arts landscape, I have seen countless instances of people who have forgotten this. I have seen students (some of my own and many, many students of others) who becoming skilled seem to undergo some weird personality change, to the point where they suffer a kind of selective amnesia; such people forget that they too were once fumbling neophytes; and many behave as if they have been skilled all along and have somehow realised their talents without the help and assistance of others.

Regularly taking some time to reflect on where we came from, thinking about the people who have helped us get where we are (in life and on the mat) is healthy and cleansing for the soul. Over the course of our lives, we are shaped through our interactions with other people … the influence of the people we spend time with, is both subtle and profound. Regarding the kind of people we spend time with … choose wisely!

Thursday, April 20, 2017


Regarding Reading ...

Reading is inexpensive. It provides a pathway to virtually ‘free’ education. It opens our mind to adventure. It provokes our imagination. reading motivates and inspires. It instructs. It transports us. As I read somewhere on the inter-webs …

“You don't need a measure of treasure to fly
to sporting success on a broom in the sky
to Eros alone in the sight of the stars
to space on a ship that's intended for Mars.

You don't need a mountain of money to go
where Peter and Susan await in the snow
where planets contend and defend for a spice
where Alice adventures with Hatters and mice.

You don't need a wallet of wealth and of worth
to start on a journey across Middle-Earth
to fight in the night with your sword and your steed
You don't need a fund or a fortune to read”

Wednesday, April 12, 2017


How do they do it?

Depending on how we are going in life or even what age we are at … we often attribute the success of others to a range of factors.
I recently read the following …

The Rich attribute success to Abilities and Hard Work
The Middle Class attribute success to Education and Luck
The Poor attribute success to Cheating and Connections

I cannot cite any hard evidence to support these ideas but my own experience thus-far, tells me it might have a degree of truth to it.

If you are successful - in something or other - the struggling will often tend to explain your success to themselves in a way that makes them feel okay about their own situation. It is common practise for the struggler to accuse the successful of ‘selling out’, ‘cheating’, ‘operating on impure motives’, etc.

As a successful person, on the other hand, it is seductively easy to attribute your success solely to hard work, intelligence and abilities; whereas, perhaps your circumstances were just conducive to success; perhaps you had a lot of help; perhaps you had a great support system or maybe you had a really good head-start.

I know a number of successful people who came out of difficult environments; I also know aa few strugglers who have emerged from privileged environments … it’s not always plain and simple.

The truth - where it is so often unearthed - could for many of us, likely reside somewhere in the middle. The bottom line is this - we can rarely fully know what others people’s motivations, drives and mental processes are … and perhaps we shouldn’t care that much even if we did. What ultimately matters, is what we do, how we think, how we act upon and react to, the world we live in.

If we develop a solid work ethic - spend some of our time educating ourselves - learn to live within our means - we can often rise above circumstance and do well in the world. If were have great mentors, a great head-start or even a helping hand, then we can rise even further. It is not a contest - at least in my view; and comparing ourselves with others can leave us feeling bad about ourselves, bad about those we compare ourselves to; and at worst, living in a state of envy and bitterness.

Imagine you are an animal - you might well learn from the lion, the kangaroo, the butterfly and the ant alike; as each has their own strengths, weaknesses and challenges - a bee has no business comparing itself to a horse - the horse can run, the bee can fly - what actually matters is how each lives in the world. Live well … you have less control than you think …. you have more control than you think. - JBW

Monday, April 10, 2017


Vanquishing my Oppressor ...

The cry of the unfulfilled, the uninspired … ’Others are oppressing me!”
Many people that think like this also think that all the things going wrong in their lives are the result of other people’s doing. I have always, for as long as I can remember, been bemused by this kind of thinking. People often find it very, very difficult to own their personal set of circumstances … ie: the notion that their lot in life may have something to do with their choices, their decisions, their own actions (or inactions) and how they see themselves.

Most of the time, such people don’t fully understand what real oppression is. Oppressive regimes and theocracies are real … oppressive laws are real … but these things are most often found in other countries; and are experienced in their fullness on an hour by hour, day by day basis by the people who live there. Almost everyone reading this post most likely lives in a place where freedoms are often taken for granted. Most of us are fortunate in the extreme!

If things are not going well in our lives, it may be worthwhile taking a look within; rather than looking outward for someone or something to blame. There are many things we cannot control, that is true … but here’s the point, there are so, so many things that we can control. There is also this point: many people seem to expend a considerable amount of energy in yelling and screaming about their ‘rights being infringed upon’, about how the ‘system is rigged’, about how ‘hard their lot is’; about how ‘entitled’ they are - rather than directing that energy toward bettering themselves, or contributing to the world in a meaningful way, or acquiring skills that can be useful in life. Energy is in limited supply; yelling, ranting and whining are basically just kid-strategies.

Feeling bad, very often, is a choice! As the ancient Greek philosopher Epictetus once said “If someone succeeds in provoking you, realise that your mind is complicit in the provocation.” Again, sticks and stones …


Tuesday, April 04, 2017


Another bedrock misunderstanding ...

Everything happens for a reason: yikes … seriously? Rather than being overly dependant on the need for things to make sense, we should just accept that often (very often) things happen for no reason - things just happen - random things - chaotic things. A church falls over and kills the fifty people deep in prayer - for no reasons other than sub-standard engineering or bad construction. Acceptance of the fact that life can be a chaotic and often unpredictable experience, can be in itself, somewhat comforting. This is life … a lot of life is chaotic and unpredictable … sometimes stuff happens for a reason , sometimes for no reason that makes sense … it just happens. If anything, we are adaptable … go with that! - JBW

Saturday, April 01, 2017


Seeking the Meaningful Difference …

Asking a question about the differences between things (that may look similar) is worth doing. But a way better (more revealing) thing to do, is to ask about the meaningful differences between things. There are ‘differences’ and there are ‘meaningful differences’ - and not to be cryptic - the difference between the two is meaningful. - JBW

PS: Seriously … I am not kidding. Pay attention!

Wednesday, March 29, 2017


The Luck Formula

A researcher named Richard Wiseman did some considerable study of people that seemed more lucky than others. 

He finally concluded that there were 4 qualities that made people more "lucky" …

  • Being open to meeting new people and having new experiences
  • Having a generally positive attitude (i.e. expecting good fortune)
  • Trusting intuition and gut instinct
  • Being able to see the good in the bad

Here are a few of own observations on the topic of ‘luck’ …

When considering ‘good luck’, it would serve us well to keep things in perspective. The true miracle is that any of us are here at all. The odds against us being here, are astronomical in the extreme. The mere fact, that every single one of our ancestors, leading back to the dawn of life on earth, managed to survive long enough to reproduce, is a miracle beyond the abilty of any of us to fully comprehend. 

Each of us are natural ‘visualisers’. We are amazingly adept at daydreaming and pondering about events that have not happened yet. This is one of the things that sets us apart from the other members of the animal kingdom. We can look forward - we can visualise goals - our imagination paves the way. Being able to see with our mind, what doesn’t yet exist in the present,  is a skill that can make us seem lucky.

I have never liked the ‘poster & stick-it’ note style of goal-setting. The only thing a poster on the wall will ‘manifest’ for us, will be perhaps, a family of spiders who decide to take up residence behind it. Goal-setting is not anything that special, it is simply an inner-knowing, a conscious acknowledgment of what we want to move toward. Even children accomplish this with little or no effort. Plotting a way forward is integral to the concept of good luck. 

Decision-making, like any other skill-set, can be honed and refined. Unknowingly, each and every day provides us with a myriad of opportunities to practice the development of this skill-set. More often than not, we make decisions with little or no conscious awareness; sometimes the result of a string of such decisions is misinterpreted as ‘good luck’. 

We don’t always have to make great decisions; very often, the way our lives unfold, is determined by simply choosing not to make bad decisions. The elimination of what we do not want to do, what we do not want to have, can in itself be a powerful directive force. 

The world is smaller than we think. Each of us is more connected that most of us realise. We are all related. We are all living, deciding, choosing, dreaming and dying in the same intimately-shared, ultra-thin slice of time. Some things may seem much more improbable to us, than they actually are.

Reliance on four-leaf clovers, amulets and horoscope forecasts is for the ignorant, the superstitious and the desperate. Consistent ‘good luck’ is the result of cultivating the right habits and the development of certain set of skills. 

  • JBW

Tuesday, March 14, 2017


The Unintended Journey

Our habits keep us where we are. They wear deep the trail.
Step away from some off them … and we can find ourselves undertaking an unintended journey.

I remember clearly, some 30 years ago now, making the decision to step away from my usual routine of training in the percussion-based styles of martial art (striking) and making a brief foray into the world of grappling. I’ll just make a quick trip to Brazil, I thought, I little temporary detour from my habits, and dip my toe in the BJJ pool … so to speak.

Thirty years later, I am still splashing around. Sometimes, the unintended journey sets us on a path that leads to a lifetime of adventure and joy. You never know what lies around the corner. - JBW

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